Feeling inadequate as a woman

Does it ever feel like you’re constantly spinning plates? Career, family, friends, community involvement – the list goes on.  We’re told we can “have it all,” but sometimes, here in Norfolk, VA, it feels more like we’re losing ourselves in the process.  

I see this struggle play with women in the Hampton Roads out time and time again.  The pressure to excel in every area of life can lead to a pervasive feeling of overwhelm, a sense that we’re never quite doing enough, and a whisper of “I’m not sure I can keep this up.”

This isn’t about complaining.  It’s about acknowledging the very real challenges women face today.  It’s about recognizing that the pursuit of “having it all” can sometimes come at a cost – our peace of mind, sense of self, and overall well-being.

Norfolk women are a force to be reckoned with, and many contribute as professionals, entrepreneurs, mothers, caregivers, and community leaders. 

They are navigating the complexities of military life, balancing family needs with career aspirations, and striving to make a difference in the community.  But this constant juggling act can take its toll.

 

Women Counseling

Some women may look at women counseling at this point. Counseling can be a great start and so can identifying signs that can indicate it’s time for some help.

The signs of overwhelm can be subtle, creeping in slowly until they become a constant hum in the background of our lives.

Let’s look at some signs of feeling inadequate and overwhelmed:

Emotional Exhaustion

Do you feel constantly drained, even after a good night’s sleep?  Are you irritable, snapping at loved ones for seemingly no reason?  Do you find yourself crying more often than usual?

Mental Fog

Is it hard to concentrate?  Do you feel forgetful or scattered?  Are you struggling to make decisions, even simple ones?

Physical Symptoms

Are you experiencing headaches, muscle tension, or digestive issues?  Have you noticed changes in your sleep patterns or appetite?

Loss of Joy

Have you stopped enjoying the things that used to bring you pleasure?  Do you feel disconnected from yourself and your passions?

Withdrawal

Are you pulling away from friends and family?  Do you find yourself isolating, even when you crave connection?

These aren’t indicators of frailty. They’re reminders of your humanity, signaling that a change is necessary.

 

So, what can you do when “having it all” starts to feel like “losing yourself”?

Redefine “Having It All”

What does “success” truly mean to *you*?  Is it about climbing the corporate ladder, or is it about creating meaningful connections and making a difference in your community?  

Redefining your own version of success is the first significant step towards creating an authentic and fulfilling life.

Set Boundaries

Learning to say “no” is crucial.  It’s okay to prioritize your own needs and well-being.  Set boundaries at work, at home, and in your social life.  Protect your time and energy.

Practice Self-Compassion

Be kind to yourself.  We’re often our own harshest critics.  Treat yourself with the same compassion and understanding that you would offer a dear friend.

Prioritize Self-Care

Self-care isn’t selfish.  It’s essential.  Make time for activities that nourish your soul, whether reading a book, taking a walk by the Elizabeth River, or simply spending a few quiet moments alone.

Seek Support

Don’t be afraid to ask for help.  Talk to a trusted friend, family member, or therapist.  Sharing your struggles can be incredibly empowering.  As a therapist, I provide a safe and supportive space for women to explore their feelings, navigate challenges, and reclaim their sense of self.

Reconnecting with Your “Why”

What truly matters to you?  What are your values, your passions, your dreams?  Reconnecting with your “why” can help you make choices that align with your authentic self and create a meaningful and fulfilling life.

 

Counseling for Women Near Me

You are worthy of joy, peace, and fulfillment.  You don’t have to do it all, all the time.  It’s okay to ask for help.  It’s OK to prioritize yourself.  It’s OK to redefine what “having it all” means to you.  You are capable and strong and deserve a life that nourishes your soul.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed or lost, please reach out.  I offer free 15-minute consultations to discuss how therapy can support you on your journey.